Employee accepts 18k raise and promotion, quickly finds himself wishing he was back in his old job because of the increased time, stress, and responsibility: 'Now I spend 60% of my time in meetings'

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  • A young worker talks on his phone outside his office building, deciding what to do about his job.
  • "Got promoted 6 months ago and wish I could go back to my old role, is this career [damaging] to ask?"

    I got promoted from senior analyst to team lead back in August and everyone was congratulating me, my parents were so proud, etc.
  • The pay bump was nice (about 18k more) and I already had some money saved up so it's not like I desperately needed it.
  • But here's the thing.. I absolutely hate it. My old job was perfect for me. I could focus on the actual work, solve problems, leave at 5pm most days.
  • Now I spend like 60% of my time in meetings, dealing with interpersonal drama between team members, doing performance reviews, and just babysitting grown adults.
  • I barely do any real analytical work anymore which was the part I actually enjoyed. The stress is also way worse.
  • I'm responsible for other peoples mistakes now and my manager (who used to be my peer) constantly throws me under the bus when things go wrong.
  • I've started having trouble sleeping and my partner says I'm way more irritable at home. I keep thinking about my old role and how much I genuinely looked forward to going to work back then.
  • Has anyone ever asked to step back down from a promotion? Would this completely destroy my reputation and future opportunities?
  • Part of me thinks I should just tough it out because "that's what you're supposed to do" but another part of me is like why am I making myself miserable for a title I didn't even really want Would love any advice from people who've been in similar situations
  • A worker in a blue suit texts on his phone while seated in his car.
  • aeronutical Is your old role still open? If it's been backfilled that puts the company in a weird spot. I've had this happen on my team and it resulted in losing a really good engineer. Kind of the risk you take with accepting a promotion. As for future opportunities, assuming they can put you back in your old role it really shouldn't be an issue. Also what opportunities would you be worried about missing out on? Sounds like climbing management ranks isn't what you want anyway. As a manager, I w
  • Jaqen_M-Haag Management and individual contribution are completely different skill sets. I've seen great ICs become awful managers and I've seen low performing ICs become great managers. I would partner with your manager (or his/her manager) and express it exactly like this: you don't feel as fulfilled in this role as you did in the previous role and it doesn't feel like a good fit right now. Explain that you want to stay with the company but that this position doesn't seem like the best option
  • Ok-Age-3452 Man, this hits close to home. I made a similar jump from individual contributor to management and it was like stepping into a completely different job that just happened to have the same company name on the paycheck. The brutal truth is that stepping back down will raise eyebrows, but honestly? Your mental health and actual job satisfaction matter more than what some random coworkers think. I've seen people successfully negotiate back to senior analyst roles by framing it as "wanting
  • BimmerJustin This will be highly dependent on your organization and your local management. A good boss will understand and do their best to accommodate you, especially if you were a high performing IC. But it will have at least a temporary impact to your reputation. I would consider what your job prospects look like outside of your current company. If you feel reasonably certain you can find another job if things go poorly, then it's worth approaching this issue with your manager. If you don't b
  • Legal_Researcher7788 As a manager I had a team member we promoted to team lead come to me after 6 months with a document outlining what he liked and didn't like about his role as team lead. He had put a lot of thought into it and had several logical reasons why he was better suited to being an individual contributor and why it would be better for the team overall if someone who was genuinely interested in the responsibility of team lead was given the position instead. I really appreciated his ho
  • Foreign_Suggestion89 Alternative: Do you have a good HR partner or mentor? Maybe they could help you with the challenges of being a supervisor. You don't have to carry the burden of your team being perfect, but you do have to manage their performance. How many direct reports?
  • Applesaucesquatch I did this and even fully trained and promoted my replacement in order to go back to my old position. Everything seemed great and had the blessing of upper management or so I thought, until they fired me the day after handing him the keys. I was a stellar performer and well liked by the team that I managed to great success. Didn't matter. None of it did. It was seen as a betrayal or some kind of slight by the big boss. And just like that after all I did for them, and it was a l
  • amanhasthreenames To me this sounds 100% like a management issue. A boss who doesn't have your back is a huge stressor. You've gotten a promotion, leverage it to take another step up at a new job. I guarantee you can take the things you don't like at this job and spin it. into things you would do to max productivity at a new role/firm.
  • Evan_802Vines Just leave for more money. Then come back.
  • YesterdaySimilar2069 Some of this may be skill set shortfalls you can gain competency in. Other issues may be related to managing interpersonal relationships too tightly, same issue with being thrown under the bus and being in meetings more than you'd prefer. Not every one of your problems, but a lot of them are things you'll get better at as time progresses. I'd encourage you to keep pushing where you are, but lean into gaining those skill sets - It sounds cheesy, but a lot of those office rela

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